What is your Coping Mechanism? What do you do instinctively when you are having a very stressful period in your life?
When I was younger and I was overly stressed, I would reach for something fattening to eat…maybe a box of Tastykakes, cookies, chips, or ice cream. Since giving up sugar this year, all of the above items aren’t a possibility plus I don’t want to gain any weight…so, I recently noticed that I do cleaning.
This past week I had to put my 14 year old dog Benji to sleep. I got home and went down on my hands and knees and scrubbed every linoleum floor in the house. Two hours later after crying my eyes out and scrubbing the floors, I was completely spent and could once again function. A week ago I had gotten disturbing news and spent the afternoon de-cluttering.
I was telling my girlfriend about this latest cleaning coping mechanism and her response was, “I wish that were mine…I eat like crazy.” When I came home and got the bucket out, my husband looked at me and asked, “what are you doing with that?” “Washing the floors.” “now?” “yes, now”. “why?” “because I have to do something. I have to get the pain out.”
What do you do when you need to cope? To get past the emotional pain? I know people who go for a long walk or run until they are exhausted; get a stiff drink; eat; go to bed; go for a long drive; cook a storm; go out in the garden and pull weeds; play the piano; put the music on; etc.
Any others of you who clean? I will say one thing about the cleaning part…there is a sense of satisfaction in the end when you realize that your pain was productive in a way. No marathon cleaning sessions for me any time soon, I hope…
til next time…Eva