Our Kids’ Stuff

I hear it so often that when the kids have graduated from school/ married/ moved out of the parents’ house, their rooms for the most part still contain all of their “stuff”.  They move on…to an apartment/home base of their own with identities completely different from their original  home “stuff”…

We parents are reluctant to do anything with it for a while…realizing that they WILL want some of it at least(or will they?)…so either their room stands as if it’s like a mini shrine or we box up the items and stack them for giving to them “someday”.

Friends of mine who want to utilize their kids’ bedrooms as the long awaited office space, craft/work space or guest bedrooms are literally stuck.  Two I know of have sons who are in their late 20s, who come home twice a year for holidays and their rooms are still full of childhood/teenaged “stuff”.  When they ask what they want to keep, the response is, “I’ll look through it”…and it doesn’t get done.  they live too far away to take much back, live in small apartments or aren’t in a permanent spot yet.

I’m at that point now…boxes of my daughter’s stuffed animals, shoes and other clothing, odds and ends.  She has told me that much of her shoes, clothes and stuffed animals can go because her tastes have changed so drastically and she only wants to keep a few of her extra special stuffed animals for her “little human” someday…when and if she has one.

Now, if I can only pin her down for an hour or so…if not, I’ll need to photograph items and send them to her via email and get a response that way.

til next time…Eva


3 thoughts on “Our Kids’ Stuff

  1. And it isn’t only parents! I just spent a good part of the summer semester going through “kid stuff” left at the community college by previous students — in some cases from decades ago. My recently retired boss had all too patiently left everything in cabinets, in drawers, behind doors, and on shelves from her 30 year career — “in case they come back some day” — while we had to work around it and the various maintenance people had to repeatedly clean around it for years.
    When the boss finally did retire, she was worn out from making executive decisions about all her own piled up bits and pieces. So she left most of the old student artwork, supplies, files, and so on for me to sort through and “do something with it” before her replacement — as yet unchosen — has to come in and deal with that along with learning everything else which comes with the new territory.
    However, I suspect that on the home front, kids probably leave things with some subconscious idea that it gives them continued claim on a space they can return to if things in the “real world” don’t work out so well. If we had not moved repeatedly, I imagine I might have done the same thing…

    • good point Jennifer! I remember a saying that pretty much states that if you leave something of yours’ behind, that you will come back there. So what will you be doing with all of this artwork left behind?

      • So far, I’ve been able to send a few things back to the originators through their friends. But most of it really wasn’t worth saving to begin with, since it was either done half-heartedly for a grade, never completed, or not properly stored and fallen apart over the years. In those cases, I’ve been either offering the framing and canvases and so on to current students to revamp for their own work to save them money on supplies or recycling the grounds and frames to display recent portfolio show posters and so on in the office and hallways for our campus visitors.

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