A friend of mine had recently written the following on her Facebook wall…”You are not your bills, your butt or your bank account.”
Definitely food for thought. Really. How many times do we base our worth and our worry on those three things?
I am certain guilty. I worry about money and paying of bills. a. lot. It’s kind of embarrassing in a way because I pride myself towards being a positive person in many ways…but money has a way of crashing down my defenses.
I’m well aware of the adage…what you think about, persists. I am not fond of the monkey brain continually coming back to the same topic…”uh…that bill is/was due…and you don’t have enough in your account to pay it…uh…what are you going to do about it?”…over and over and over again.
There are several methods used to steer away from the monkey brain…sometimes they work quite well…sometimes not.
* Thinking back to the Dale Carnegie classes I’d taken years ago we were advised to think of the worst scenario that we could handle and accept that…and most often it won’t reach that.(so, are you going to die from this? …no…, will you be put in jail for this?…no…, get fined via a late charge?…maybe/yes.)
* Then there are the different phrases you can say when that worrying thought crops up…
– I don’t have to think about that right now.
-Things have a way of working out, one way or the other.
-I’ve seen things turn around on a dime.
* Journaling your thoughts on paper often enables an answer to appear out of nowhere.
* Expressing yourself physically…go for a walk, put music on and dance around in the living room.
*A habit coach suggested a challenge to push the particular worry back…depending on how often your monkey brain keeps coming back to it…can you keep from worrying about it for an hour? Then two hours? and so on up to 48 hours and longer.
*And although I put meditation and prayer last on this list, they are where I go first. Meditation to still my mind at any time. Prayer to guide me and still my fear. (Archangel Michael has helped me many times).
Worry is a thief. Worrying about anything robs us of our joy and our energy…in essence, our life.
til next time…Eva